Factors Responsible For Sexual Abuse As Expressed By Students Of Federal College Of Education, Osiele Abeokuta, Nigeria

One of a therapist most important task is to ensure that a child is living in a safe environment with a central, supportive, caring adult. Often, young people who have been abused or neglected, experience incredible mobility in their lives as they move from one placement to the next. These youth begin to doubt that any adult will be with them for very long. A sense of security and safety in one p0alce, therefore, is very important to the therapist can begin to develop a relationship with the child. Through that relationship, the therapist can begin to help the child understand why it is important to process what happened to them. Most abused adolescents want a sense of control over their lives. Therapists can show youth how; by working through their earlier experience, the can eliminate some of their negative feelings and the resulting behaviours. Through that process, youth can develop a sense of control over their behaviour. When a young person is ready the therapist can help them by affiliating with others and developing the ability to trust and have relationship with others people, both adults and peers. Often at this stage, a therapist will place a youth in group therapy.
Time and consistency of care are key factors in all three stages of therapy, but especially in stage 1. By the time an adolescent receives the help they deserve, they may have built up an array of defenses to protect themselves, and making contact with them may be difficult.
To establish the trust of an abused child, a therapist needs to build a relationship with that child, which takes time, therapist need that time to demonstrate that they are trust worthy, by action as well as words.
In some communities, the new managed care systems are threatening this process by covering the costs of only short-term therapy. The trust of a severely abused child simply cannot be established in six to eight session. Under those circumstances experts caution that therapists should work only on phase 1, or the establishment of the child’s safety. It is inappropriate to encourage a child to talk about traumatic abuse if that child is not in a position to receive on going therapeutic support. In such situations, a therapist must simply advocate for children’s safe placement and help them to develop coping strategies, teach them about available resources, and suggest behavioural alternatives that may positively affect their interactions with others. A therapist also might help children understand that behaviour problems may be related to something they learned or experienced a long time ago.
General guidelines to minimize sexual harassment in the work place: Powel (1996) offers the following guidelines;  
1.    Be professionally pleasant rather than overly friendly
2.    When work problem arise, don’t try to “smooth things over” with extra smiles, touches, or cuddles.
3.    Avoid playful flirtatiousness.
4.    Respond only to appropriate comments.
If the person persists and you feel you are being sexually harassed, Powel (1996) recommends you do the following:
1.    Avoid being alone with the harasser
2.    Create and maintain a careful descriptive record of incidents as well as any formal or informal complaints you lodge.
Including these with the harasser. These records should include:
(a)    Where the incident occurred
(b)    Time and date of occurrence
(c)    What exactly happened
(d)    What was said
(e)    How you felt
(f)    Names of any witness or others who have been harassed by this person at this company or students who have been harassed.
(3)    Use your judgement about the best way to proved proceed in the particular organization. In some places if is legal to make secret recording of the harassing comments, in others it is not, in some organizations it is best to arrange a talk with the harasser, or to writer a letter. In other situations it is best to proceed through official channels such as a supervisor, department chair, affirmative action officer, or union representative. If a conversation or letter is determined to be the best approach, it should cover three items.
(a)    A description of what happened; for example “you often say things about my body or clothing;
(b)    A description of the effect on you: “I feel threatened and cannot concentrate during class”
(c)    A description of what changes would like to happen: e.g. “I want you to stop making sexual remarks and to step touching me”.