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Influence Of Mate Selection And Self-disclosure On Marital Stability Among Couples
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In his study, Adeleke (2001) observed that
friends can select spouses for their friends which usually leads to
marriage. According to him, this method of mate selection is common
either now or in the early days. This method of mate selection is a
feature of urban life, and it is carried out by a friend who wants to
matchmake his/her friend with another individual or friend. It is
carried out through introduction of man to a woman or vice-versa by a
friend. This is common among colleagues at the work places or business
associates. This is particularly true of people who have gone through
the bitter experience and stress of disappointment. Mates can be
selected through others such as the pastors, marriage counsellors and or
seminar leaders or family.
As Sidney (1991) puts it, self—disclosure
as a phenomenon was first investigated by Jourard (1971). The process
was originally defined as telling others about the self. Since then, an
extensive amount of information about disclosure has been produced,
leading to significant shifts in the way we think about the phenomenon –
self-disclosure. One change has been to consider disclosure as a
process of revealing and concealing private information. Making this
change, raises many questions about how people decide to disclose or
remain private and helps us better understand the process within
romantic relationships, marriage, and families (Burgron, 1982,
Holtgraves, 1990; Petronio, 1991, 2000).
According to Cutrona (1996),
many people disclose themselves to their mates before marriage, this
disclosure has in some instances caused them their marriage. For
example, when a mate either man or woman discloses that he/she has a
terminal disease like HIV/AIDS, the attitude of the other partner in any
case changes, in most cases, negatively. People do not want their mates
to be infested with such illness as HIV/AIDS. Also, a case where a mate
has married before and had children before the current marriage, if the
previous marital activity was disclosed, there would be attitudinal
change or reaction which may not augur well with the relationship.
1.2Statement of the Problem
There
are many problems surrounding mate selection and self-disclosure among
couples in the contemporary societies. Marriages have hit the rock these
days due to wrong mate selections. For instance, couples have divorced
because their spouses lack compatibility with them among other factors
which they discovered in the lives of their partners. This is because
human attitude is unpredictable and people, especially spouses have been
disappointed due to negative attitude of their partners. And this has
led to separation or divorce.
Couples have course to divorce due to
sudden knowledge of their spouses’ ugly past. For instance, marriages
have been broken due to knowledge of one’s spouse’s terminal sickness or
history of family illness and other bad incidences that run in a
particular family of one’s spouse.
For the above reasons, the
researcher attempted to investigate the influence of mate selection and
self-disclosure on marital stability among couples.
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ABSRACT - [ Total Page(s): 1 ]This study attempted to examine the influence of mate selection and self-disclosure on marital stability among couples in Lagos State.The descriptive research design was used in the study. The questionnaire was used to assess the opinions of the selected respondents with the collection of relevant data from them, while the sampling technique was used to select the sample size of the study.A total of 120 (One hundred and twenty) respondents were selected by the application of the stratified sampl ... Continue reading---
